During tough times, the best way to make it through and survive until things get better has always been to collaborate and cooperate with others. It’s one of the most admirable traits of our species.
Even if you’re sensible enough to stay away from the overwhelming US media coverage, there’s as much fear in the air these days as there was just after 9/11. However, people are responding differently — there seems to be much less of a spirit of cooperation and support than there was at that time.
Here are three attitudes to embrace — about yourself as well as towards others — that will smooth out some of the rough edges we’re all bumping into.
Now, more than ever, we need to remember to turn to instead of away from each other.
1. Cultivate compassion. Be kind and gentle whenever you can.
The waters are difficult enough to navigate. Why throw in extra boulders? Now’s the time to make it REALLY easy for people to do business with you. A willingness to be flexible and understanding, to create solutions with them, will pay off greatly in the long run. Plus, it feels good!
2. Try a little tolerance. Judge a bit less, forgive a bit more.
The people who are most abrasive are often the most frightened or overwhelmed. Remind yourself not to take peoples’ behavior personally. Everyone responds differently. Some people retreat, some attack, some go numb, some make uncharacteristic decisions. Try to suspend your expectations a bit and simply meet people wherever they are.
3. Seek out and embrace patience. Make it your new best friend.
Most of us are doing the very best we can.
This week, notice how others are treating you and how you are behaving towards others. Make every effort to follow that old golden rule — you know, “DO unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Treat people well even if — especially if — their behavior doesn’t merit it.
Notice who drains you with their negativity and pessimism. Who seems to have jumped ship? Who’s good for a boost? Who can you still count on for a good laugh or enthusiasm or encouragement? Who do you feel is still on your team? This is a really good time to pay attention and observe peoples’ true colors.
